Time Without End

an anniversary

“Give it time.”

“Time’s the great healer.”

“You’ll feel better in time.”

People want to console you. They mean well, of course they do. But these phrases… At best they are meaningless, at worst fury-inducing.

I sat with someone last week who was grieving. She was tight with it, every muscle in pain, she told me. “It’s like I’m holding myself; like I can’…